Recently, I came across an Instagram post from a creator that outlined all the things she’s learned about herself in the years she’s been alive (it’s her thirty-ninth birthday). that). I love the idea of sharing a small snippet of what I’ve learned from stumbling around in my own life, in the hope it can help others out there, too.
Today, I’m sharing three pieces of advice that I would (if I could) give younger self.
If you are looking for your own introspection, I think this would be a really insightful writing exercise to try for yourself. Your answers may surprise you, and they may provide more information for your current life than you might initially realize.
On the power of “boring”
1. Remember that boredom is not a bad thing.
You have developed a level of intensity in your life that can sometimes get in the way of enjoying the little things. Remember that feeling bored is not a bad thing.
If you don’t experience ups and downs at work, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re doing the wrong job. If there is no burning passion in your relationship, it doesn’t mean it’s boring. Over time, you’ll learn that making lots of “boring” choices is often better for your overall health, whether it’s leaning on a warm relationship or coming home early after a night out. hang out.
You have developed a level of intensity in your life that can sometimes get in the way of enjoying the little things. Remember that feeling bored is not a bad thing.
About mental health
2. Just labeling your ADHD is not enough.
Just labeling your ADHD isn’t enough, although it’s a meaningful first step. You need to actually do your job manage it. Work with a mental health professional Someone who can give you the tools to manage your ADHD, instead of trying to overcome it on your own, will make a world of difference. This applies to any other mental health disorders you may experience throughout your life.
About relationships
3. You don’t stop being the same person you were before you met your partner.
You don’t suddenly become a different person when you commit to being with someone else. All the quirks and trends you had before meeting your partner will remain. And the things you love most about that person when you meet them become the things that annoy you the most.
This does not mean that something is wrong in the relationship; it’s more about the choices you make after you realize this. If you can find a way to cultivate your relationship Despite your differences and conflicts, you will build a relationship on a foundation of trust.
Joe said this recently, during an argument: “I wish you knew that I would always choose you.” I told him the next day that I was going to do what he said.
Writer’s Note: This is from one person’s point of view in a monogamous relationship, but this perspective can certainly apply to immoral monogamous relationships as well. The values of integrity, respect, and trust are applicable in every type of ethical partnership that exists.
Kate is currently learning to play the ukulele, leaving her husband, children and dogs desperate. Follow her on Instagram at @witanddelight_.
